I would prefer to inform you that despite an unlucky match with Mr Dudley, my dating life became better but let’s face it; if that were the case, my dating life wouldn’t be comical and I’d run out of writing material. Therefore, lucky for you I have several more annoying scenarios covered within this next blog.
Mr Paranoid/ Last Minute/ Dishonest
This guy’s worthy of several nicknames but for now I’ll refer to him as Mr Paranoid. I heard of him through my Mum’s work friend, but didn’t receive a message from him for over a month. Remember when I mentioned receiving a message from a guy my parents were trying to fix me up with around the time I was dating Mr Dudley? That was me subtly introducing Mr Paranoid.
At the time, I was unaware of what he’s like, so when he messaged (about a week after I received my breakup text) and asked how it was going with Mr Dudley, I replied with a brief, honest answer and suggested he and I get to know each other, now that I’m single again.
What went wrong with Mr Paranoid…Got Ten Minutes?
This one was short lived. We had one call which went well but the guy seemed a bit keen. He had 2 people in his profile picture. When I asked him to clarify which one he was he replied with ‘does it matter’ and advised me not to be so superficial.
However, it did matter as I was not attracted to one of those guys. As my luck had it, he was the guy I wasn’t attracted to #ownyourlooks #dontwastetime. I’ve been turned down for not being attractive enough and I find it’s like a band aid – rip it off and #getitoverwith. Send the picture quickly to find out if it’s a yes or no. It’s better to do this before either of you becomes attached. There’s no need to ‘long it out’ as the youngsters say. Besides I’ve learnt it’s best not to take it personally; just because someone isn’t attracted to you it doesn’t mean you’re unattractive. You were just simply not their type – just as certain guys/ girls may not be your type. It’s #nothingpersonal so don’t let it bring you down J.
This one was also short lived. Mr Timeline is not too dissimilar to Mr Siddah in that he’s fairly straight laced. However, he was also open to being with someone different to him (as he explained to my Dad over the phone after finding me on the Gurdwara list).
He had a very clear timeline of his future. He was 27 years old and wanted to get married by the age of 28. Therefore he was surprised when he realised I would want to know someone for a minimum of a year (ideally a few years) as he thought you get an idea of whether you want to be with someone after a few months. Of course you may have an idea, but just like with any good test you need longevity to be 100% sure. Furthermore, once you’re engaged it’s all about mixing with the other side of the family and planning for the wedding. I’d like to build more relationship stage memories first to help strengthen the sturdiness of the relationship so that, come the wedding prep/ marriage stage, if things are difficult I know it will be worth fighting for. Also, by that stage I’d have felt we enjoyed the lighter stages of getting to know each other beforehand.
It was clear to say that I didn’t fit into his timeline. Married within 6 months and kids within 2 years…The sheer thought of this panicked me, plus we were clear opposites, and not in the attractive #oppositesattract way.
That’s all for now folks.
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