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Matchmaking

- Published: 04 December 2016
Matchmaking

As mentioned in my last blog post, it didn’t quite work out with Mr Dudley (que for belting out #allbymyself and binging on Chunky Monkey Ben & Jerry’s Ice cream whilst watching a chick flick and crying; screw you Jack – we know in real life you’d have regretted your decision and pushed Rose off that wooden float #everymanforhimself).

 

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On a serious note, I decided to focus my energy on a new project; matching up Mr Back Up with Mr Dudley’s cousin. I clearly can’t seem to match myself up with someone so why not try assisting someone else instead – someone should get some happiness out of this situation.

 

Mr Back Up’s Back Story

  • I went to the same primary and secondary school as him (same academic year).
  • We ended up at the same University together, both of us taking a year out beforehand.
  • He lives on the road behind me; it takes ten minutes to walk from his house to mine.
  • We never spoke much until we ran into one another at University; after which we spoke a lot more since it was nice to see a familiar face.
  • Mr Back Up is both Sikh and Jatt but before you go there, as great as he is there is zero chemistry – it’s purely platonic.
  • Since we are both Sikh Jatt and decent, attractive people we agreed that if we hadn’t gotten married by the time we turned 30, we would marry one another.
  • As the age of 30 drew nearer, we changed this to 35 (neither of us really wants to marry one another…it’s more a hopeful thought than anything else to reassure ourselves we won’t die alone #falsehope).
  • Our friends joke around by referring to us as Mr and Mrs Back Up, most likely because of this agreement.

 

Matchmaking process

  • Initially I ran the matchmaking idea past Mr Back Up.
  • Once he agreed, I ran the idea past my parents who ran it past the girl’s parents.
  • The girl’s parents initially wanted to check the following:
    • He’s definitely Sikh Jatt
    • That there’s nothing wrong with him since he wasn’t snapped up by me (if a guy pretty much ticks off your check list it’s hard to explain to the elder generation why you’re still not compatible – there’s no Punjabi translation for ‘there’s no spark/ chemistry between us’ #languagebarrier.
  • I then had to ensure everyone was fine with not having Mr Back Up’s parents involved; he hadn’t officially announced to his parents that he’s looking to get settled down. The reason being, once you announce this there is no turning back and you will be set up on date after date…Constantly asked how it’s going…Your parents consistently prying you for details and occasionally throwing in the ‘oh you’re never going to find someone, you’re just being too fussy’ comment. I can support this concern based on my previous parent matchmaking experiences.

 

Initial Contact

  • Mr Back Up and Mr Dudley’s cousin were messaging back and forth – a good start!
  • Mr Back up then started noticing that Mr Dudley’s cousin started taking ages to reply.
  • Fearing he was coming across as too keen; he began doing the same.
  • Both parties agreed to meet up and Mr Dudley’s cousin ordered a #jackdaniels and Coke (so let’s call her Miss Daniels).
  • Mr Back Up was impressed by the order thinking, ‘okay – maybe this could go somewhere’.
  • However, Mr Back Up said he was proved wrong when little conversation was made.
  • Eventually he ended up messaging Miss Jack Daniels to say it doesn’t seem like they’re clicking and that maybe they should just ‘call it a day’.
  • Miss Daniels replied saying she thinks that’s for the best.

 

Overall, my first attempt at playing match maker was not quite a success, but who knows…maybe I’ll get better at it? I must admit, I enjoyed the process #matchmaker #watchthisspace

Source: tarasdatingdiary.wordpress.com

TaraBains



StoryGirl

I love playing matchmaker, hey, if it doesnt work out for you, whats wrong with making sure other people find love :)


so true right? Thanks for reading :) x

TaraBains



StoryGirl

I love playing matchmaker, hey, if it doesnt work out for you, whats wrong with making sure other people find love :)


so true right? Thanks for reading :) x

StoryGirl



I love playing matchmaker, hey, if it doesnt work out for you, whats wrong with making sure other people find love :)
TaraBains



Talesofyour20s

love reading your stories! Thanks for sharing


Aww - thank you so much! I appreciate that you take the time to read them and leave positive comments too - it means a lot :) x

TaraBains



Talesofyour20s

love reading your stories! Thanks for sharing


Aww - thank you so much! I appreciate that you take the time to read them and leave positive comments too - it means a lot :) x

TaraBains



Talesofyour20s

love reading your stories! Thanks for sharing


Aww - thank you so much! I appreciate that you take the time to read them and leave positive comments too - it means a lot :) x

TaraBains



Talesofyour20s

love reading your stories! Thanks for sharing


Aww - thank you so much! I appreciate that you take the time to read them and leave positive comments too - it means a lot :) x

Talesofyour20s



love reading your stories! Thanks for sharing
Talesofyour20s



love reading your stories! Thanks for sharing